What is it to be in Love?

To be in love is not an emotion, butterflies in stomach, or sexual attraction; feelings change, butterflies die and looks fade.

To be in love is to have a solid foundation of friendship, mutual consideration and respect for each other, shared values.

To be in love is a choice. A conscious decision to stay with your partner through the good and bad times.

To be in love is to be committed. To your partner, to your life together, to your relationship.

To be in love is a practical, grounded thing, something that may be battered but holds solid throughout the storms; it is not an ephemeral existence that fades away with the slightest breeze.

To be in love with someone is the one of the luckiest things in the world.

Bad

Is there such a thing as a bad person? Like, really bad – movie villain bad, irredeemably bad.

Or are there people who have just made bad decisions? People like you and me.

I was watching this show on Netflix called “No Good Nick”, and the main character is a con artist who does some truly questionable things. Yet, the people who are supposed to be “good” have also made some questionable choices.

In fact, you could say that their actions drove the main character to do what she does.

Good people can make bad decisions, can hurt others, can become someone they didn’t think they could be.

But it’s how we move forward that defines us.

Food for thought.

Friendships are Weird

Today I caught up with some old friends whom I hadn’t seen in a while. Truth be told, I thought our friendship had been left in the past -not because of any drama that happened, or any feelings of dislike, but because… life.

As we grow older, our paths seem to become more divergent. We get caught up in our own things; the coffee dates, shopping sprees, girly catch ups fade into the background. Careers, partners,babies, new friends in a similar phase of life come into the foreground.

Before we know it, we haven’t spoken in days, weeks, months, years.

There are some friendships where this is the end.

There are others, where the friendship is lying dormant, to be re-kindled once the paths converge again.

There are still more where the friendship still exists, but the relationship isn’t as deep as it once was. Where it’s held together mostly by shared history and memories of good times.

Friendships are weird, varied, ever changing, and complex.

But I treasure all of them. 🙂

Life Mottos

In my almost 27 years on this earth, I have come to believe in two life mottos:

1. Things happen as they should and when they should

2. Always try your best

Some people think these two mottos are contradictory (if things are going to happen anyway, then why try?), but I think of them as complementary.

See, I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason and that events unfold when they should (as a believer in God, I do think He gives us what we need, when we need it).

However, this doesn’t mean that we should take a passive approach to life and WAIT for things to happen; unless you’re extraordinarily lucky, good things don’t happen by chance.

This is where the “trying” comes in. Always try your best and take advantage of opportunities, because if you don’t try, you don’t know what could happen. Trying gives you a chance – whether that’s to gain knowledge, experiences, win the lotto, whatever. Not trying gives you nothing – literally nothing.

And if you put in your 100%, but the outcome isn’t what you wanted, that’s because something better is waiting for you down the road.

Every time I am afraid to take the leap, I remind myself of the above – and every time, a month, weeks or even years later, I have had an “Aha! That’s why I…(insert moment of revelation here)”.

So, note to self: don’t let fear of the unknown hold you back. Put your best foot forward. If it happens, it happens.

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Ps. I now have an insta account (@sociallyawkwardetiquette)

Do you ever?

Do you ever feel useless?

Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough?

Do you ever feel the anxiety building and building inside of you, like it’s going to drown you?

Do you ever wish that you could win a lotto windfall overnight, so you can quit your job and never worry about money again?

Do you ever think that money will make you happy?

Do you ever feel that there is more to life than money?

That happiness and well-being is more important?

Do you ever wish that societal expectations would reflect this?

I do.

Live to Eat or Eat to Live?

Maybe it’s a consequence of being stuck at home for the past 2 weeks, and having nothing better to do, but lately I feel like my every waking hour is consumed by thoughts of food.

Like: what should I buy from the grocery store? What take out should I order? What should I eat for breakfast/ lunch/dinner/snack?

It doesn’t help that scrolling through Facebook, I see people posting insanely delicious looking photos of food (with recipes!), which sparks even more cravings.

So: live to eat, or eat to live?

Definitely the former for me! 🥠🍨🎂🍿🍩🍪🥧🍫🍰🥜🥟🍱🍣🍛🍲🍜🍝🥘🥙🌮🌯🥪🍕🍟🍔🌭🍗🍖🥓🍳🌶🍞🍆🥑🥦🍎🍊