Okay, so from my last few posts, you probably know that I went through a break up last year… and may be sick and tired of reading about it (oops).
So here’s a new chapter: getting a social life.
This time last year, I was sitting at home most nights and weekends, binging Netflix, eating chocolate, listening to sad songs and generally feeling lonely as f**k.
To give context, I entered into a long-term relationship pretty much the moment I moved cities, so my social circle was pretty limited; it involved my ex, his family, a couple of mutual friends, and a couple of work colleagues.
Yeah… with hindsight, I can see it wasn’t the best situation, but I got comfortable, and it meant I didn’t have to go through the rigmarole of making new friends when I:
a) find it an anxiety inducing activity to meet new people
b) find it difficult to make small talk, let alone keep an entire conversation flowing with a virtual stranger
c) have the hobbies (and as much recent pop-culture knowledge) as a 60-year old, making said conversation flow even more difficult
Yet, five years later, I found myself needing to rebuild (or rather finish building) my social circle. Here’s what I discovered though :
- You don’t necessarily have to meet new people – you can deepen the relationships you already have
Small chats in the kitchen, drama-binging sessions in the living room, spontaneous after-work dinners.
Little by little, I got closer to the people around me and my world expanded, my friendships strengthened.
Little by little, I felt connected again.
Little by little, I am starting to live my best socially awkward life 🙂