In my almost 27 years on this earth, I have come to believe in two life mottos:
1. Things happen as they should and when they should
2. Always try your best
Some people think these two mottos are contradictory (if things are going to happen anyway, then why try?), but I think of them as complementary.
See, I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason and that events unfold when they should (as a believer in God, I do think He gives us what we need, when we need it).
However, this doesn’t mean that we should take a passive approach to life and WAIT for things to happen; unless you’re extraordinarily lucky, good things don’t happen by chance.
This is where the “trying” comes in. Always try your best and take advantage of opportunities, because if you don’t try, you don’t know what could happen. Trying gives you a chance – whether that’s to gain knowledge, experiences, win the lotto, whatever. Not trying gives you nothing – literally nothing.
And if you put in your 100%, but the outcome isn’t what you wanted, that’s because something better is waiting for you down the road.
Every time I am afraid to take the leap, I remind myself of the above – and every time, a month, weeks or even years later, I have had an “Aha! That’s why I…(insert moment of revelation here)”.
So, note to self: don’t let fear of the unknown hold you back. Put your best foot forward. If it happens, it happens.
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