Lately I’ve been feeling pretty down and self-conscious about my looks. That’s what happens when you work in an industry where appearance is pretty much key (no it is not the modelling industry – actually it’s a bar). During my time there, I’ve noticed a couple of things, which although existed on my peripheral awareness previously, has never been more emphasised.

I don’t want to elaborate too much on this, because this post is not supposed to be a b**ch-fest. Let’s just say that the common theme in my observations is that looks do matter, contrary to the espousals of everyone else. I got so caught up in this notion that I thought about various ways to change the flaws in my appearance in order to appear “prettier” – like trying to get a slimmer face, smaller nose, clearer skin… To the extent of thinking about plastic surgery. I thought if I became “prettier”, I would become happier. The trouble with this of course, is that it’s not true – things just escalate, and after one thing is “fixed”, before long another flaw will be found.

The thing is, it’s hard living in a world where the ideal version of beauty is perpetuated in the media everywhere, and if your face doesn’t match those beauty standards, then you don’t feel beautiful. Or at least, I don’t. So yeah, I thought about plastic surgery.

Then I talked to someone. I asked her, “have you ever considered plastic surgery?”. Her reply? It was this: “No way, I’m not going to change my face. This is me.”

A simple reply, but it resonated within me . She was right. And if she was right, why did I feel so ashamed of my looks to the extent that I wanted to permanently change myself? Why did I let myself feel inferior to everyone else? Sure , I’m never going to be called “stunning” or “gorgeous”, but you know what? I’m NOT ugly. And neither are you. Or ANYONE!

Beauty comes in all different shapes and forms, and yes some people are more genetically blessed than others, but that doesn’t detract from how you look.

I want you to know something important: your appearance is a gift. It’s been determined by the genes of your parents, it carries the heritage of your ancestors, and – most importantly – it is unique. It is YOU.

So don’t be ashamed. Love yourself!!!
That’s what I am going to do from now on, hard though it is some days.

Sae xxx

Author: sae234

Snippets of life, awkward moments and random thoughts. Guest posts welcome! Follow me on Instagram for more content @sociallyawkwardetiquette

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